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Do you have different rules for teenagers depending on whether they are male or female?
I know a lot of parents who feel the need to protect their daughters more than their sons and therefore establish the rules accordingly.
Just interested in your opinions.
I cant comment on my kids as they are young but when i was a teen many of my friends had different rules to their male/ female bros/sis
Even one set of twins i knew!
I am interested to see what everyone says. I don't have kids, but I tend to agree with you. Parents are more lax on the boys, at least when I was growing up!
I don't have teenager kids obviously but being a teen not to long ago that parents tend to treat them different. I'm 21 now and my little brother is 12, almost 13, and I can already see how they are really lenient on him but super hard on me. For instance, just with grades at school, I wasn't allowed anything below an A or B but he gets C's all the time and doesn't get in trouble hardly at all. My parents were also always alot more worried about me then they are him.
I don't have teenage kids but I know my parents were way more lenient with my brother than me. I still had a curfew after I graduated from highschool. I never came home on time but I still had one. I don't remember my brother ever having a curfew. He's 18 now but when he was in highschool he used to come home at all hours of the night and never get in trouble. I still tease my parents about it. I don't know why alot of parents are like that, stupid double standard
well, i was harder on my ds but thats because my dd was never into pot but
they were 8 years apart DD was one that always wanted to do well had the same type of friends DS hung out with the pot heads was always the worry
but it was just as hard to watch both kids with their teen years as far as being hurt by the opposite sex DS took his first love very serious at 14 she was 1 year older then at 16 she went of to the Navey rang him all the time accusing him of one thing or another he ws devastated then just went from bad to worse even though he was hard to handle my heart went out to him. DD was never rejected she was the one that eas 8 yrs older then her brother. but people go on about young girls getting pregent ruining their young lives, (well ) i feel the same for the boys , my DD never had her first child untill she was 30 well truely married, DS was a father at 19 he is 27 now not married but still with the girl who had a 2 year old as well when they started dating so he had to mature very fast ( to be a dad ) he didnt mature any other way though but he is the one that mostly cooks the meals etc, so what i am trying to get at LOL is boy's can get into just as much trouble as girls it will effect their lives just as tough
Gee i hope all this babble made sense LOL
Don't have teenagers yet, but when we were growing up I was often told my brother had more freedom, etc because he was a boy (1 year older), but my baby sister (5 years younger) had more freedom than both of us!
I think I probbaly will treat them differently - but more because they are individuals than because they are boys or girls. I have 2 daughters so will see in years to come.
With all the research showing the differences between teenager boys and girls though, it's hard not to treat them differently - basically, we are being told to.
I think it depends on the kids. If you have a child that is a little off track then you tend to be harder on them . if you have one that never causes any probs or gets into trouble they are probably a little more trustworthy then I think parents are a little lax.
When my daughter gets to her teenage years I will let you know how it all went on the girls vs boys thing. lol
I'm going to have strict rules for my boys. There is no way I want them to think that they are free to get out of control.
Hi all, I have been through the teenage years with a son and daughter who were 13 months apart. We gave them both the same amount of rope, just long enough for them to feel a fair amount of freedom and short enough to haul them back into line. Husband out on two separate nights bringing son home from questionable parties (son was grateful as he had no way to get home). But as they grew older they became more responsible. They are now mid thirties and married/kids etc., and appreciate the restrictions placed on them equally. I now have an 18 yr old son who is experiencing the same amount of freedom/restrictions and he doesnt complain. I know where he is most of the time and encourage him to have friends around.
I think both sexes should be treated equally as boys as well as girls are targets, physically as well as sexually.
I know a lot of parents who feel the need to protect their daughters more than their sons and therefore establish the rules accordingly.
Just interested in your opinions.
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I cant comment on my kids as they are young but when i was a teen many of my friends had different rules to their male/ female bros/sis
Even one set of twins i knew!
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I am interested to see what everyone says. I don't have kids, but I tend to agree with you. Parents are more lax on the boys, at least when I was growing up!
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I don't have teenager kids obviously but being a teen not to long ago that parents tend to treat them different. I'm 21 now and my little brother is 12, almost 13, and I can already see how they are really lenient on him but super hard on me. For instance, just with grades at school, I wasn't allowed anything below an A or B but he gets C's all the time and doesn't get in trouble hardly at all. My parents were also always alot more worried about me then they are him.
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I don't have teenage kids but I know my parents were way more lenient with my brother than me. I still had a curfew after I graduated from highschool. I never came home on time but I still had one. I don't remember my brother ever having a curfew. He's 18 now but when he was in highschool he used to come home at all hours of the night and never get in trouble. I still tease my parents about it. I don't know why alot of parents are like that, stupid double standard
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well, i was harder on my ds but thats because my dd was never into pot but
they were 8 years apart DD was one that always wanted to do well had the same type of friends DS hung out with the pot heads was always the worry
but it was just as hard to watch both kids with their teen years as far as being hurt by the opposite sex DS took his first love very serious at 14 she was 1 year older then at 16 she went of to the Navey rang him all the time accusing him of one thing or another he ws devastated then just went from bad to worse even though he was hard to handle my heart went out to him. DD was never rejected she was the one that eas 8 yrs older then her brother. but people go on about young girls getting pregent ruining their young lives, (well ) i feel the same for the boys , my DD never had her first child untill she was 30 well truely married, DS was a father at 19 he is 27 now not married but still with the girl who had a 2 year old as well when they started dating so he had to mature very fast ( to be a dad ) he didnt mature any other way though but he is the one that mostly cooks the meals etc, so what i am trying to get at LOL is boy's can get into just as much trouble as girls it will effect their lives just as tough
Gee i hope all this babble made sense LOL
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Don't have teenagers yet, but when we were growing up I was often told my brother had more freedom, etc because he was a boy (1 year older), but my baby sister (5 years younger) had more freedom than both of us!
I think I probbaly will treat them differently - but more because they are individuals than because they are boys or girls. I have 2 daughters so will see in years to come.
With all the research showing the differences between teenager boys and girls though, it's hard not to treat them differently - basically, we are being told to.
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I think it depends on the kids. If you have a child that is a little off track then you tend to be harder on them . if you have one that never causes any probs or gets into trouble they are probably a little more trustworthy then I think parents are a little lax.
When my daughter gets to her teenage years I will let you know how it all went on the girls vs boys thing. lol
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I'm going to have strict rules for my boys. There is no way I want them to think that they are free to get out of control.
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Hi all, I have been through the teenage years with a son and daughter who were 13 months apart. We gave them both the same amount of rope, just long enough for them to feel a fair amount of freedom and short enough to haul them back into line. Husband out on two separate nights bringing son home from questionable parties (son was grateful as he had no way to get home). But as they grew older they became more responsible. They are now mid thirties and married/kids etc., and appreciate the restrictions placed on them equally. I now have an 18 yr old son who is experiencing the same amount of freedom/restrictions and he doesnt complain. I know where he is most of the time and encourage him to have friends around.
I think both sexes should be treated equally as boys as well as girls are targets, physically as well as sexually.